We Have Lost Our Baby

Henry Lubong — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 07:53:27 +0000

We tried the best we can to save our baby but maybe it’s not meant to happen. The ultrasound gave the same result and Donna’s hGC level went down to 16,000. It’s not easy to accept that the baby we are expecting is now gone. But that’s how life is, we have to face the truth and deal with it. I pray for strength for both of us.

There Is Still Hope

Henry Lubong — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 23:19:10 +0000

Donna went for her hCG test this morning and just got the result. Amazingly, the previous hCG count of 27,000 went up to 50,000. This is good news. The fetus is causing this to go high so there is a possibility that the fetus is still alive. Her OB said it’s possible that the fetus’ heartbeat is faint that it was not picked up by the doppler and the ultrasound. So she scheduled her for another hCG test and ultrasound next Monday. This is enough window to give the fetus time to grow. we are keeping our fingers crossed.

Terrible News About Our Baby

Henry Lubong — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 06:08:47 +0000

I took Donna to her OB this morning for her monthly pregnancy checkup. She’s about 10 weeks. We were both excited because this will be the firts time we are going to hear our baby’s heartbeat. The MA took us to one of the rooms and she started doing a doppler test. We couldn’t hear a heartbeat. She tried for at least 5 minutes with no success. I was starting to get worried and I could see the same expression in Donna’s eyes. Then the doctor came in and did the doppler test herself. Still no heartbeat! She then turned to an old ultrasound machine to check why there was no heartbeat. From that moment, I sensed something was not right and I didn’t want to hear any bad news from the doctor. She couldn’t get the machine to work properly so we were told to get the ultrasound done in another clinic which is just across the hallway. I would not trust that machine anyway. Nevertheless, the fact that we could not hear a heartbeat is enough to get us very worried.

So Donna had a stat ultrasound and we went home to wait for the results. I called work and let them know that I won’t be coming to the office so I can be with my wife. About 2 o’clock in the afternoon, we finally got a call from the doctor. The bad news hit us, we have lost our baby! The ultrasound didn’t detect a heartbeat either. She said that the fetus might have stopped developing right around 8 weeks based on the size of the fetus. This is the most devastating event in our lives. It felt like the heaven fell down on us. My wife was crying and she’s hurting a lot. I tried to keep my tears from falling so I can be strong for her. It is not easy but we have to go through this tough time.

The doctor gave her two options. Do a D&C (dilation and curretage) now or just wait for the fetus to be flushed out of her system. I wasn’t in favor of any of these yet. I’m still not convinced that my baby didn’t make it. So we’re gonna get a second opinion and have donna do an HCG test tomorrow just to make sure all the test has been done. It is life we are talking about here and we can’t just do an abortion because someone couldn’t hear a heartbeat or a machine did not detect it. I believe there is still hope.

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We Have Lost Our Baby

There Is Still Hope

Terrible News About Our Baby